Queendom, we're family now, right? I feel like we are so I'm comfortable having this discussion. Last Friday was a pretty chill day for me. I worked most of the day and went to my weekly yoga class which is always an amazing and challenging experience. It was packed as usual. Afterwards I ran to the grocery store, showered, and cooked something awesome.
It wasn't until the next day that I was reminded that Friday was Valentine's Day. If the sales on overstocked candy at my local CVS were not enough of a reminder, a conversation with my local gas station homie was another.
This was the convo:
Homie: How are you? How was your Valentine's Day?
Me: Oh, Friday was great! Or are you asking if I had a valentine?
Homie: Yes, that's what I'm asking. Did you have a valentine?
Me: No I didn't.
Homie: Why? You seem really nice.
Me: I am really nice. - LOL! - Did you have a valentine? You seem really nice too.
Homie: No, I hung out with family.
Me: Well since we're both really nice I'm sure we will one day find awesome people.
Homie: I agree. See you next time!
Now, before you start with the "hey, why don't you guys date" comments, the title of this article is "Living Single" so let's stay focused. - LOL! The reality is that on Friday I couldn't care less that it was Valentine's Day. I am sure that a lot of women and even men who found themselves without a valentine on Valentine's Day may have been bummed. I wasn't bummed at all and here's why:
I Don't Have Time For Bandits
Do you know what a bandit is? Most of us have come across them. I know I have. A bandit is a person you are seeing who you really have no business with. It's not going to really go anywhere because you really aren't compatible. The bandit may be inconsistent in his or her actions or even disrespectful, but you continue spending time with him or her because you are lonely or "hungry". ;) If a person you are seeing is inconsistent and displays shady character traits, he or she is a bandit. And, if I rather run financial regressions than spend time with you it's a waste of time. And who has time to waste?
I Am Thankful For The Opportunity To Be Selfish
I am a Libra so we're all for partnership. So if the right person comes along who convinces me that I'm better paired, he will be a very lucky man! LOL! In the meantime, I choose to use this time to focus on using my skills and talents so I can leave my mark on the world, travel when I can, and do other things that make me a better me. - Being selfish can be good, right? LOL!
I Keep Good Company
If you don't have great people in your life, find some. Having great friends makes this life journey so much richer. If things are going well, celebrations ensue. If things are not going so well, great friends are there for those times too! And we won't even mention the game nights, parties, brunches, and all around silliness and joy that great friends bring.
I Know Myself
I have accomplished and experienced a lot while single including traveling long distances and living in foreign lands, or staying local and spending quality time alone. Times of solitude are great times to check in with yourself to see how you're feeling, assess where you are, and where you want to go. If you are someone who does want to be in a partnership at some point, knowing yourself can also help you identify people with whom you are most compatible, and help you communicate your needs when you are in a relationship worthy of your time, love, and compromise.
Are you single? Were you affected by the Valentine's Day hoopla?